FIT FOR LIFE, FIT FOR WORK. 67 are ready to travel ahead towards a bright future

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24th November 2016
Etafeni’s colour is green …….. but on the 24th November our colours were green and black……………….
THE colors for the graduating group of FIT FOR LIFE, FIT FOR WORK students.

ETAFENI’S FIT FOR LIFE, FIT FOR WORK teaches job-readiness and life-skills to 220 unemployed youth per year. It is geared towards youth aged 18 to 30, who have matriculated. A life-coping and work skills course involves six weeks of personal development including self-awareness, setting personal goals, and how to resist pressures that will handicap the achievement of their goals. A second component of the course covers areas of human sexuality, depression, conflict and substance abuse. A final component teaches students how to develop their own work ethic and integrity, how to draft a CV, prepare for interviews and offers career guidance. Graduates are given formal work placements and internships and have access to mentorship for a year after the placement. The programme boasts an 80% placement rate into entry-level jobs, internships, apprenticeships, tertiary institutions or establish their own businesses.

67 student graduates were awarded certificates of completion, witnessed and cheered on by fellow graduates, parents, friends and members of the Nyanga community. Amongst the guests were representatives from the Police Force, Constable Jacobs from Youth Desk, Mr Arthur Ketile from False Bay College, Ms. Nosisa Nompozolo From Cape Town College and Mr & Mrs August from the Strand Nursing College. The graduation was MCd by Shaun Williams, manager of the FIT FOR LIFE, FIT FOR WORK JUNIOR PROGRAMME and Nokuzolo Qamngwana, administrator for the FIT FOR LIFE, FIT FOR WORK PROGRAMME.

Graduates committed to building on this success for their own professional and personal progress, for that of their family and the community.

The FIT FOR LIFE, FIT FOR WORK team under the management of Brenda Nkondlwana includes Nokuzola Qamngwana, Sonwabile Dwangu, Odwa Masiba and outreach facilitators SImphewe Peter and Solomon Shikwambane.

Etafeni’s Women’s Wellness programme with their young children

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Sonalle is a young woman who won an award for her beautiful and socially-conscious photography.  She offered to make studies of the mothers in Etafeni’s Women’s Wellness programme with their young children that illustrated the attachment between them.  The pride and delight of the mothers is evident as is the way that the children thrive in this field of maternal enjoyment, despite the women’s illness.

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Ilizwe Lam (My Voice)

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During 2014, Nika Soon-Shiong from Stanford University spent 3 months volunteering at Etafeni Fit for Life, Fit for Work programme (FLFW).  On her return to Stanford, she raised funds for a photographic project for youth attending this Programme.  Nika provided cameras and tutored the students on photography.  The Project Ilizwe Lam (My Voice) culminated in a public exhibition at the Cape Town Central Library on the 16th August 2014. The exhibition featured the photographs of the students who spent up to four weeks capturing aspects of their community.   Photographs were themed to represent barriers to employment or sources of inspiration.

FLFW is one of 14 programmes offered at Etafeni Day Care Centre Trust in Nyanga.  A life- and work-skills programme for matriculated, unemployed youth between the ages of 18 – 25, the Programme impacts on approximately 250 young people per year, 60% of whom are women and provides entry-level work opportunities, learnership and internship opportunities and has a high placement rate.

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The Story of Nonsikelewa (Siki) Ndaliso

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Nonsikelewa (Siki) Ndaliso has been part of Etafeni programmes since she was very young.  She performed on a platform with Annie Lennox and Angelique Kidgo in Etafeni’s Marimba group at the Stephen Lewis birthday celebration in 2013 in Canada    She has been part of the creative writing programme, MissWrite, since it began in 2013. Siki matriculated at the end of 2013 with two distinctions, is currently studying law at University of the Western Cape and is “paying it forward” by running/facilitating a group of young women writers through the MissWrite Programme.  She was nominated  for the Lead SA Junior and she was successful in being awarded this for January 2014.  Each month an adult and junior Lead SA is awarded. Lead SA (www.leadsa.co.za)  is a national competition which celebrates and honours leadership (an adult category and a junior (under 21 category)).   At the end of the year, the Lead SA champions (adult and junior) is awarded.  We are all very proud of her.  Lead SA interviewed and filmed Siki and she was also interviewed on Cape Talk 567.  Visit the website to listen to her words of inspiration.

 

In an address to at Etafeni’s 2014 AGM Siki spoke lovingly of her long association with Etafeni, beginning with her participation in the Etafeni Afterschool Care in Grade 5.  Etafeni became her second home.   She acknowledged the positive role the Programme and Etafeni had played in her life.  She learned many things that have stood her in good stead, contributing to who she is today, a confident young woman  on her way to a career in Law.  She hoped that Etafeni’s new vision would impact on many more young people,  that they too would flourish and referred to Etafeni new visions which is “A Flourishing Community in Nyanga”.  “May Etafeni continue, the great work it does and continue improving Nyanga into a community which many young people, like me can be proud to come from”.

 

The contact details for Miss Write are:

Email: misswritesa@gmail.com

Website: http://misswritesa.weebly.com/

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/misswritesa

The Story of Nonjongo

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Hello. My name is Nonjongo. I am 18 years old. I was born in the Eastern Cape on Christmas Day. Christmas was always the best time of the year for me. However, Christmas when I turned 13 was different. My father’s recent death had left a huge void in the house.

A few days after Christmas I observed strange behaviour from my mother. Coming from visiting relatives, I found her in the house with three men. She was very fidgety, but I did not pay much attention and went about collecting items of clothing and everything else I needed for spending the night at my aunt’s.

We were already in bed at my aunt’s when my mother came looking for me saying that I should leave. It was late at night, but my mother insisted I go. As I stepped out of my aunt’s hut, my mother pointed to three men, indicating that they would escort me. I could not understand who the three men were but I had been taught to obey adults, especially my parents.

When we got to the house, I was left with one man, who informed me of his intentions to make me his wife. The man was more than twenty years my senior. Although he was from the same village, he had been working and living in Johannesburg. I felt a cold chill run down my back as the man explained that my mother had agreed to the marriage. My heart sank. I cried. I was hardly a woman. Was the ‘lobola’ money she received more important than her own daughter?

I cried that whole night. I eventually felt asleep and was awoken the next morning by family members of my soon-to-be husband. They took me to his mother’s home where they performed traditional wedding rituals and dressed me up as a new bride. They gave me a new name, ‘Nosikholise’. I stayed at my sister-in-law’s house with my husband. My heart was hurting all the time. I thought about all my friends and school mates. They had gone on to the next grade at school, but I understood that I could no longer attend school. I was a wife now and had wifely duties to attend to. All the adults, except my aunt, told me to work hard on the marriage and make it work.

My husband had paid lobola to my mother and he expected me to perform nuptial duties at night. This was the hardest duty for a thirteen year old child. I eventually fell pregnant. My husband went back to Johannesburg. Within three months he fell ill and had to come back home, to the village, to be taken care of by family. He had TB and had drastically lost weight. He could not hold down food and could not do anything for himself. His mother and his sisters were scared of him. I had to take care of him.

All this while, it never occurred to me that my husband was HIV positive. I knew nothing about AIDS or HIV, until the day his sister helped me take him to a doctor in East London. The doctor ordered all of us to go for an HIV test and CD4 count immediately. At the clinic we all went for counselling and testing individually. I told the nurse about my circumstances. She did the test and it came out positive. I just sat there and cried. I did not know what the future held for my unborn baby.

A cousin of my husband advised us to come to Cape Town and stay with him, so that my husband could have better access to medical care and ARVs. We arrived in Cape Town in May 2007 and on 7th September I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. We named her Kholwa, short for Sinalo ukholo (we have faith).

In October 2007, whilst attending an HIV/AIDS support group meeting at the clinic in Lower Crossroads, I was advised by the counsellors to visit the Etafeni Centre and ask to join the Income Generation project. The Etafeni mothers and managers received me with warm hands and hearts. I was offered further counselling and career advice by Teresa Lumani, the programme coordinator. They helped me to recover my health and wellbeing. I brought my one-month old baby girl with me to Etafeni and my relationship with the other Etafeni mothers and staff members grew.

Months went by and my husband was responding well to treatment. He started gaining weight and became stronger. The more time I spent at Etafeni, involving myself in its programmes, the more I gained insight into life and started regaining my self-confidence. I learnt to do beadwork and earned a little money for myself, enabling me to buy food and basic necessities for my family.

By now my husband had been completely cured of TB and he got a job through his cousin’s contacts. We built a shack in the yard of one of his aunts. However, although my husband’s income was much higher than mine, he refused to buy groceries or give me money for his child. The income I gained through the Etafeni project supported me and my daughter.

My husband started drinking and sleeping out, and when he was home he would abuse me. By 2009 I tired of the treatment I was receiving from my husband and I packed my bags and left with my child. One of the Etafeni mothers offered me temporary shelter.

I am HIV positive but I am living my life with a positive attitude. I am currently doing Grade 9 at night school in Lower Crossroads. Although I managed to pass Grade 8 last year, my plan is to register at a FET College which has a good success rate and learners there get career guidance and have more options open to them.

I believe I will pass my Matric and enter Medical school and eventually qualify as a doctor. I know this will happen because I believe in myself and I work hard to achieve this goal. Of all the things I want in life, I want to be around to see my daughter proud of me.

I am grateful to Etafeni for the support and love they have given me and my daughter throughout this ordeal. May it grow from strength to strength and forever open its doors to destitute and desperate mothers like myself.

Nonjongo

Kehle Makhabeni

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Kehle Makhabeni was the Etafeni Centre’s head gardener for more than eight years. Kehle came to us originally as a member of our Income Generation programme. He was HIV positive and sick. His two sisters had both died of AIDS-related illnesses and he and his mother, Clara, were taking care of their orphaned children. Kehle was a Rasta and he made the most beautiful hats out of coloured plastic bags, collectors’ items. He was also a creative beader. When we started our food garden at the centre, he asked if he could be employed as a gardener. He’d had many years’ of experience growing his own weed so we thought he might be good. He was. He went through the Abalimi Bezekhaya training, however, and produced, over the years, many hundreds of harvests of handsome organic vegetables for the children and HIV+ income generators at the centre. He was our head gardener and groundsman for ten years.

Kehle was winched back from death’s door many times. A few years ago he succumbed to what we thought was terminal TB. We applied for a disability grant for him, when, thanks to his wicked sense of humour, the efforts of his doctor and the advances in ARV treatment, he bounced back, grabbed his spade and carried on as if nothing had happened. Kehle was particularly proud of his lawns and our HR Manager had once to put him on compulsory leave because he wouldn’t let our afterschool care children play on the grass.

The children in his household are now grown and are out of school. After a very short illness, Kehle died. He was part of the fabric of the Nyanga centre as much as any bricks and mortar and he will be much missed.